“Really the only other place in the world as good for dating is Jerusalem,” said Curtis Goldstein, a salesman at Halstead.
Newcomers quickly find themselves overwhelmed with invitations for Friday night Shabbat dinners, and synagogues vie to be the center of the scene, luring singles with snacks like kosher sushi and meatballs.“I’m a social butterfly, so I love it,” said Jessica Schechter, 29, an actress, director, producer and teacher who moved to the neighborhood in 2011.
“But the ability to find single people to date in the neighborhood matters less than it used to.”Natasha Zamor, 28, a paralegal who lives in Prospect Heights, Brooklyn, said that her neighborhood played almost no role in her dating life.
While she enjoys going out with friends to bars by the Barclays Center — 333 Lounge on Flatbush Avenue is a favorite — there’s nothing to tell you if the person you meet at a bar is someone “you want to invest your time in.”Ms.
Not least of all because she assumed the city’s dating scene would be far superior to that of suburban Rockland County, N. Castillo, 27, a special-education teacher who bought a studio apartment in Washington Heights two and a half years ago.“I was truly and honestly — I don’t know if this is naïve — but I was hoping to meet someone at the grocery store or walking down the street,” she said.There may be no such thing as an ideal neighborhood for single people, but even in this age of dating apps and websites, neighborhood continues to play a huge role in how, and whom, people choose to date.Whether one is striking up a conversation at a coffee shop or tallying up proximity points with a potential love interest, geography matters in large ways and small.Not all of those men are looking for women — Jackson Heights has grown increasingly popular with gay men.The Upper West Side, some say, is place to be if you’re a single Modern Orthodox Jew.Not fretting about an hourlong postdate commute allows drinks to turn into dinner, for instance.A bar filled with friends may bestow the confidence to initiate a conversation with a stranger, which in turn may lead to the confidence to approach some other stranger, at some other bar, on some other night.Then one day, a friend texted her to come to happy hour at Rambling House, an Irish pub in the Woodlawn neighborhood of the Bronx.“The vibe was great — everyone was ready to have a good time and tell you their story,” she recalled. I don’t want an hour-and-a-half obstacle just to grab a coffee.Living here has literally been like a live dating app.”She and friends from the building have traveled to Tulum, Mexico, participated in a coed fantasy football league, gone on daylong bike trips and sweated through Soul Cycle classes together.In Manhattan, she said, the men she met through apps would boast about being a top person at a place like Oracle, the high-tech company.“Now I’m into the kind of guy with facial hair who wears a leather bracelet and goes salsa dancing,” she said.