But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.
For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.
Chaperoned dating until the wedding, maybe a year later.
Attitudes toward sex are changing, especially in more cosmopolitan cities like Beijing and Shanghai, but in general, many Chinese women see sex as a sign that a relationship is headed towards marriage.
If their child’s significant other doesn’t meet with the parents’ approval, continuing the relationship will be very difficult.
That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!
Before any reasonable in-law would accept an offer of marriage to their daughter, they want to know if the man:-has a good job-can pay for an apartment-can pay for the wedding-can buy the daughter gold jewelry-can furnish the apartment with new furniture, curtains, cups--you name it.-can buy the wife a new wardrobe. This is where I came in last night--he wanted to know if I had any suggestions.
This is in addition to all of the usual background questions about his family, upbringing, education, and so forth.