No, I’m not going to be nosey, rude or obsessive about it.But, if my daughter’s phone just happens to be laying on the table, and I see she’s gotten a text, I might take a look at it.However, many of you have older daughters and you are in the middle of this tumultuous time of life. This picture will be used on the cover of the upcoming book Don’t let this sneak up on you. We have two kids, Brittany (29) and Trevor (25) I am the Senior Vice President for Saving Innocence.I would like to offer a couple of thoughts in this regard. I have a passion for my family and have learned a few things along the way.Sure my daughter is fun, but she’s also a student, and in our house, school comes before fun.That means she won’t be going with you to the mall, the movies or out to dinner on a school night.For teenagers, perspective isn’t the easy thing to begin with. This is a dangerous age where everything we do is put under a microscope.
One more thing, she does not take her phone to bed with her.I will ask you a lot of questions and make sure you know that I know how special my daughter is.When you get to know our daughter, you’ll get to know us too.The opening theme of the show had him walking down a long corridor of doors that opened as he moved through. After dialing the right number he drops into a secret passage.That’s the type of security I want around my daughter. Sure, but you have to dial the right numbers and that means following certain rules. If you want to date our daughter, we will try to figure out what kind of boy you are before you spend time with her.We’ve raised them to seek their identity in the things that matter and not in the superficial, so they are somewhat intimidating to young men. But sooner or later a boy of equal substance was going to show up, and now he has. They both have busy schedules, but if they aren’t learning or working, they are in our home.They love to cook together in our kitchen and try out new recipes.So, get the door for her, look me in the eye when you talk to me, and please don’t let your britches fall down so low that I have to look at your underwear band.Believe me, good manners will help you get on her good side, and mine too.No, I won’t hide in the backseat or stalk you when you’re with my daughter, but she and I have an agreement that she checks in often with home, and lets me know where she is and where she’s going.Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways! What rules do you have for someone dating your daughter?