To the surprise of no one who has ever given sex advice for a living, the sex didn't get better after IMDONE and her boyfriend got married."Here's something I've never seen in my inbox: a letter from someone explaining how sex with their partner was infrequent, impersonal, uninspired, unimaginative, etc.
I fucked my husband on our first date because I wanted to see if he was any good. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, I'm on the autism spectrum, and I've experienced sexual trauma.It helped my husband understand himself and his reactions better, and it helped cement the idea of "ours" instead of "yours" as it related to the problems I was dealing with at the time.That he was willing to see a counselor and work on sex were also good signs.We were (and still are) introverts with poor communication skills and anxiety/depression/mental-health issues.I won't say it's been fairy-tale perfect—the kind of perfect that makes you barf and roll your eyes—but it's been pretty damn close.If I had a partner who was unwilling to talk about sex or try to fix it, I'd kick his ass to the curb without blinking.So with the help of counseling, I got him on board with dirty talk during sex (because it's important for me) and I worked (and still work) on telling him what to do when we bone.When I met my wife, our sex life was okay—but I was never fully present, because I would have to concentrate on my fantasies in order to sustain an erection. My wife knew I was masturbating in the middle of the night instead of having sex with her, and that led to some enormous fights.So I told her about my kink, fully expecting that it would result in the collapse of my marriage.My wife has been incredibly GGG, and I hope I have been, too. Now you know there's at least one couple out there whose sex life has only gotten better over the years.Better Erotic Ties Totally Enhanced Relationship Last week, I responded to IMDONE, a woman who married a man despite the sex being "infrequent and impersonal" during their courtship.